Ok so people are going to think I'm a bad mother (but thats ok) but when I had to put DS into day care, it started as three days a week, and I needed it urgently as I had to fill in for a person at work who had just lost her husband.
I rang the day care on friday morning, asked for any placements, scored a place, asked to come in that day with DH - so we went in, checked out the place and then put down the deposit.

On the following Monday, I took DS there - spent about 5 minutes there, and dropped him off. He didn't ever cry when I left him there for the first few months, and has only now started to cry a little because he is having a rough time teething. But the girls there are wonderful and take him over to the sandpit, or the trees, and he has already stopped after about 20 seconds. And he never cries when I'm not there - only if he is hungry or overtired of course!!!

So I sorta see her point.