thread: Why cant it be me or DF????

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  1. #1
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    Jan 2009
    pakenham, victoria
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    Thanks so much ladies, still feeling pretty miserable, but i spose its better to get all of that out now so i can be strong for him when he needs me.
    Will definetly need all of u girls when the time comes thats for sure

  2. #2
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    Oct 2007
    ★ nor here nor there ★
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    It is very confronting and can be very scary, but once you know what all the wires, tubes and lines mean it does help.
    It may be worth seeing if you can have a tour of the NICU before hand, just so that you can see everything before you have Bimby, I have spent a bit of time in NICU between having my girls and it really does help, and I feel much more comfortable walking into a NICU knowing what to expect.

    It isn't fair I wish I could have a crappy lung and my DD is perfect set of two
    Take care xxoo

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    Oct 2006
    Sydney NSW
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    My friend joined heartkids when pg with her twins and found them absolutely fabulous, they helped her tour NICU, answered millions of questions and put her in touch with other mums. She has since done fundraising for them as she was so blown away by their support.
    Hard as it would have been to see those photos imagine how much harder it would have been seeing it for the first time on your own tiny baby.
    Huge hugs to you at this time.

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    Mar 2009
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    Life just isn't fair is it?!

    Heartkids is fantastic. I know a gorgeous girl whose little bub went through it all when she was only tiny. Such a shocking thing to go through but I agree that you will be a little more prepared and won't have the inital shock like you are going through now. All such normal feelings, so I hope you're not feeling bad at all as it is only normal.

    We're all here each step of the way, so lean on us whenever you need

  6. #6
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    Jun 2008
    in the eye of a toddler tornado
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    I'm sorry your little boy has to deal with these things skybie... it must be very scary for you and DF. I hope you can find some people who have been through this who can hold your hand and give you some idea of what to expect. We are all here for you too xxx

  7. #7
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    Jan 2010
    Melbourne
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    Dear Skybie,

    My heart goes out to your and your DH. My DD had closed heart surgery when she was 12 weeks old and 4kg. While it is minor surgery compared to open heart surgery, I know what you are going through to an extent. The ventilator, the monitors, the wires, everything. It was a fairly intense time. It is a year since DD's surgery now. DD did not want to start breathing on her own after the operation which was really scary.

    PM me if you want to chat about the hospital experience or anything.

    One thing that was really good was having a really close support person for ME. My DH was there obviously but he closes off, and luckily my mum came from interstate for a week and a half. I would have found operation day too much if I did not have her support as I am the "strong" one in the marriage.

    I only took one photo, the day before we went home, and it was of her scar. I did not want a reminder of the machines.

    xxxx