I apologise for using the word 'shouldn't' but being the mother of my child i was aware when he did and didn't need a feed.

How i encouraged my baby to sleep apparently can be seen as a form of cc, so i'm sorry but i never saw it that way.

I always got up to his cries and i always showed/show him as much love and effection as possible. When he did wake i saw it was extra minutes in the day that i wouldn't usually get to spend with him. Sleep time for my son has been a very happy time for as long as i can remember and sleeping through the night happened quite early. To this day when it's time for a day sleep or night sleep he grabs his teddy and walks to his bed himself.

I apologise again because this has nothing to do with the question now but just like you have described with mothers group i feel i am being judged for giving my child some guidance.

BabyMama i'm sorry if i didn't give you advice you were looking for but i'm sure you'll find what works for you and your son We're all different and different things work for different mums and bubs.