So many posts have already expressed my exact feelings. For me personally, I think controlled crying is cruel to a new baby (or really, any age child). Apart from the fact I just couldn't sit there and listen to my daughter crying for me and not go to her, from all the reading I have been doing recently, it's not healthy for them and can potentially have serious long term effects.
I've always wondered why everything in pregnancy and mothering is a competition with so many people. Who had the least amount of pregnancy symptoms. Who had the shortest labour, or who had the longest therefor making them better. Who did it drug free etc. And now I'm finding it things like how far apart their feeds are (I copped it from SIL because DD isn't 3 hours apart and moving to 4 hours at just 5 weeks), do they sleep through the night, how they handle bath time etc.
I remember reading a while ago that the "should" people - the ones that say what you and/or your baby should or shouldn't be doing, are like that because they need justification that they did the right thing. If they didn't cuddle their babies to sleep, then no one should because that means they did the right thing.
DD doesn't go down at the moment till around midnight, no 7pm bedtime here. I also can't comment if DD "sleeps through" yet, we co-sleep and she either sleeps through (from midnight till 6am) or we've just gotten damn good at the night feeds I don't even wake haha. I've gotten heaps of comments that she "should" be going to bed at 7pm at night, and the tsk tsk look when I say she doesn't. But I just love the look on their face when I tell them she'll let me sleep in till 11am - Midday if I want. Yesterday we changed a nappy at 6am, went back to bed and I rolled over at 11:30am because she wanted to feed... that shuts them up quick smart.
Big hugs Lee, you're doing a fantastic job!
I've actually wondered a few times if I'd be considered a Hippie because I co-sleep...
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