I agree with what everyone else said hun and wanted to give you this . IKWYM though - even though people dont come outright and say it - there are a million ways that mummys feel guilty for things they are/arent doing. I too have hardly let her cry before comforting her - I cry if shes crying like that, and like another poster said - have only left her a couple of minutes at a time so I could compose myself before going back for round 2!

I think we need to know that as mums we are all doing what we believe is the absolute best for these beautiful creatures we made, and that regardless of what the book/mother/friend/forum says - at the end of the day - we make the choices to provide and comfort our babies in the best way we know how. We are the experts who have literally studied them and know them inside out- take heart, there are lots of us out there!!