hi. i am havign the same problem and the main reason why i joined the forum to gain some suggestions or acknowledge others having same ordeal. little 'dec' is 14 months old and has been really distressed at sleep times since just after one turnign one. first thought immunisation, then teeth( one has cut-gums look a little sore). We tried the walking in and out of room but found it was taking over an hour and he started fretting and trying to climb out of the cot. we also were basically uncomfortable letting him get so upset. so the past week i have been using similar settling routines as you had listed. it is taking about 30 min to settle -no screaming but as soon as i stand to walk out he opens his eyes and cries/screams-stands up so i just stay in room and slowly take a step out and say 'sssh" eventually he falls asleep. i had no problems beforehand either and it went from bedtime, now he is doing it durign day naps and is waking up in middle of night( in the middle of the night i have resorted to dipping his dummy in a teething relief or one dip of nuerofen (but feel uncomfortable doing so-just thought if it is teeth this will be heling and not giving a big dose)again i also and i have to stay in his room for about 20 min..but he seems to be settling better and quicker plus we are more relaxed now. i started cows milk at one year old but thought he would have been upset during day if there was a problem ( does anyone know if it is more at night they show problems with milk intolerance) i think it is more that he is distressed at sleep times and maybe i comforted him more with his injections and teething. I am a little bit concerned bout it and hope it is just a stage as i am expecting our second child at end of feb and am thinking to myself how am i going to cope with spending this additional time settling "dec" every sleep. My only hope is that he seems to be settling quicker each day???
ta jgilly