roryrory i don't leave my kids to cry at all when they are this age. i know i am not of the mainstream parenting group and honestly do what works for you, for me even if oscar is crying in my arms for us that is better than without my arms IYKWIM. although in saying that we donot put our babys down really until after 12 months so they are pretty much in arms/sling the whole time or sleeping with us etc. Oscar is still in arms now at 18 months alot but not as much as prior to 12 months. BUT i know this isn't for everyone and is unusual in western society. i find in doing this, though, my kids are very sensitive and calm as toddlers and pre-schoolers, and as 11 & 8 year olds, i have also noticed that oscar does not tantrum as other kids his age. granted this could be temprement/developmental thing as well. i just think that you need to follow your heart and instincts and if it works for you continue if not change it.

i am glad you feel confident in how you parent cos that's half the battle i think.
beckles