Tulip, I get that crap from my MIL, we were there for dinner the other night and she kept telling me I "have" to learn to leave her to cry. I said I'll leave her to grizzle but if she is upset I'll go to her and she just went on about how I'm letting Ash lead things when I should be and I "should" have a set routine, blah blah, I got very upset she even told me because I'm not leaving her to cry she's not learning to sleep for long and therefore not getting enough sleep in the day and that she has bags under her eyes!Then for the millionth time I had to hear about how she left my partner in the laundry when he was a few months old to cry cause she wanted to cut out the 2am feeds. I thought it was nothing to brag about, but all this is coming from the same person who told me to put honey on a teat cause she "had" to take a bottle and who gave my daughter without permission a taste of custard!
I guess with an older generation maybe they just see one way of parenting thats why we are always having to defend although my mum has no probs she tells me all the time to do things how I want and tells me I'm doing a great job, which is always great to hear.