Oh poor you! I think this thread shows how common it is for babies to wake in the night, but also, how much support you have for whatever you decide to do!

I just wanted to add some things in case it helps you through tonight...

In terms of self settling - it is NOT the be all and end all of sleep solutions (no matter what others will tell you). My DD does self settle BUT she still wakes through the night. The best is once a night, but last night it was 2 hourly. Who knows why, but I just wanted to help you let go of it, if its causing you grief...

I actually found putting her in her own room with the monitor off did help for us. I NEVER leave her to cry - but I don't hear all the little grunts etc which was disturbing all of us. You will be amazed at how quickly you are atending to her every noise, just because she is next to you and you are so used to it. When DD slept in the side car, I used to wake up with her in my arms and not know how she got there. That's when I decided I needed some space.

We still co-sleep on a part-time basis, but DD always goes to bed in her own room, and then comes in if she is having a wakeful night. I think the space, more than anything, has helped us a lot. I feel less suffocated by her...and then when she does come into our bed, DH and I truly LOVE it!

You are doing a great job. Jazz is a beautiful, healthy, happy baby because of the amazing parenting you are doing! Be kind to yourself!