Ok I really need some solutions

[onthefly]

Oh. That's tough if you guys don't quite see eye to eye on things. Maybe try talking through it with him?

I don't believe you're making a rod at all. You're building a beautiful, trusting relatinoship with your daughter. You're listening to her needs and responding the way she needs you to.

I can't tell you how tired it makes me when I hear or read of people saying "you just have to xxx or xxx and then they'll sleep..." "Oh I never xxxx and he always slept beautifully.." or whatever. Well yes! Your baby is different to mine!!!

ETA - Have you read No Cry Sleep Solution... might be helpful