I thought that was normal for a six-month-old baby?

My DS needed to go to sleep in my arms at 6m. Then I had to try to get him into his bed and keep him asleep. He wouldn't always feed to sleep either: that was when the hours walking up and down the hall meant we needed a new carpet this year LOL.

I tried everything I could - read the Pinky McKay and Elizabeth Pantley stuff. I was doing most of it anyway and the other suggestions didn't work.

You're not wrong - your baby is just wanting you and you're responding to that. It takes it out of you a lot, but you're doing it RIGHT, not wrong!

Solutions... well, with DS he wasn't feeding to sleep, so he would lie on my chest after a feed and I'd pat him to sleep (at about 10m old - didn't work before then). After a while of this, I'd pat him in his bed. He complained about this, but wasn't distressed because I was there patting and singing. He just preferred my arms - which were about to drop off. He still likes being patted, but it isn't always required any more. I can tell him I'm going to the loo and he can go to sleep on his own... and he does!

Stop fighting your daughter. Acknowledge it is hard, but "hard" comes with babies! Do what you can for her. Accept it. Whinge about it. But don't try to force something on her unless you have to.