Big hugs Widdly, it must be so hard for you. I tend to agree with Lulu, that often a change in environment can help break a bad habit. It has worked for me in the past. Is there anywhere you could go and stay for a couple of nights to give it a try?

If all else fails, know that you are doing the best you can by being a caring and gentle parent. It would be so much worse for Archie if you just let him scream, so know that you are doing a great job (even if it doesn't always feel that way!).