Well things are getting worse. She is still waking up after every 40 min sleep cycle, and still tired (I know cause she keeps rubbing her eyes - one of her tired signs and is grizzly), and is still not sleeping well at night.

I am currently looking at the book 'no cry sleep solutions' that is recommended on this site and the advise re re-settling includes patting, rocking etc BEFORE she fully awakens. I've tried that, but she always wakes up. Can I pick her up to rock - before she fully wakes up? She NEVER re-settles with being left in the cot and patted....