I know we're not supposed to pick them up to re-settle but I have tried everything, patting, shhhing, no eye contact (hell I even tried eye contact) gentle talking etc. Is there anything I can do to help her to re-settle without picking her up?
Can I ask why you say we're not supposed to pick them up?? Just curious to that comment tis all.

As far as what you're doing, I'd say that if she needs picking up then by all means do this. At her age she's starting to become more aware and could be looking for reassurance that you are still there when she's waking/stirring. Maybe she wants a little cuddle?? They go through all sorts of stages like this and as soon as you're used to one routine they change it up for you...lol. Anyway, I don't see a problem with what you're doing if you don't have a problem with doing it.