When DS won't sleep:

Pre-midnight:
1. Put him in his crib. Try the lullaby and rocking when he starts to complain (ie straight away). Pick him up when he screams.
2. Repeat step one for either as long as I am able or until he screams the second he goes in.

Post midnight:
3. Jiggle, sway and lullaby/ssshing - keeps him quiet if nothing else. For up to half an hour.
4. When asleep/almost asleep put in crib, keeping with lullaby for 5 mins. Pick up if crying and awake. Until I can't stand any more (2-3 attempts).
5. Try feeding again.
6. See if he'll stay asleep in my arms if I lie down in bed - if he wakes, try feeding in bed, try up to 3 times (with up to half-hour of jigging and lullaby in between).
7. See if it's a light issue - will he feed to sleep with the light on?
8. If that hasn't worked then chances are it's getting up time anyway, give up altogether and go into kitchen and make drink for me and DH. Watch DS grin at me for half an hour before falling asleep.

He does get some light, fitful sleep at night but I don't and I find it impossible to sleep during the day so am just supertired after a brief nap once DS does sleep. Please note I also have a very bad back from the car accident a while ago.