Ryn - Is he taking any meds for the reflux? We are on Zantac and that he really helped settle the pain of reflux (to a point). I realise that the WHO recommends 6+mths for solids but I will start small amounts of bland solids sooner as I believe it will help settle my baby (personal choice that I think will be best for us but obviously not for everyone). I won't introduce anything but rice cereal mixed with breat milk until after 6 months.

I second the suggestion about getting some assistance from a sleep centre too as it sounds like your baby is particularly challenging to settle to sleep. While my baby sleeps well at night our days are similar to yours (less sleep actually) so I am booking into a day clinic to see if there is anything more I can be doing to help my baby get more daytime sleep. I figure it can't hurt and I want as much info as possible. Do you have anything like that that you can access?

You can tell me to go jump but I believe you should persist in getting him to sleep in his bed day and night, otherwise it is reasonable for him not to want to sleep there at night if he has other (better) options during the day. Just a suggestion - and I realise it is tough going but I think it might work if you perservere with teaching him to sleep in his bed during the day (or at least for one day sleep). I find if my baby has no day sleeps in his bed (like if we are out and about for the day or whatever) he is harder to settle there at night. I will stand there and pat him in his bed for what feels like forever and I think I bore him to sleep evertually!! He knows I'm not going to pick him up (only if he's quite distressed) and he eventually settles with my presence, and patting, only. Is your baby quite distraught in the night when unsettled or just grizzly?