Thanks for the suggestions, i will give them all a try. I did have her sheepskin in the cot same as at home, but i guess there was more commotion going on at mums house where as at home i keep the lights low & it is fairly quiet & i play a lullaby cd when dressing & bathing her. I did try co-sleeping one night when DD was unsettled but i couldn't sleep as i was too anxious having her there plus she makes so much noise grunting e.t.c. My DH is a smoker so i don't really feel comfortable having her in our bed. I suppose if she is too unsettled i could go into another bedroom & co-sleep with her there, she was fine co-sleeping it's just i couldn't relax. She is a very alert bub too always looking around having a stickybeak at whats going on so she is very aware when things are unfamiliar. I don't want to never be able to go anywhere though so i'll give it a go & see what happens.