Thank you all for so much support!

I did crack it after I wrote this orignal post and decided I was sick of getting up all the time to put the dummy back in and I was also scared by the "main" telling me I was causing a problem by cuddling Peter to sleep, so I tried to wean him off both. It was an absolute unmitigated disaster leading to us both being horribly stressed and unhappy.

We are back to cuddling and dummies.

I would probably like to get rid of the dummy, but soon he will be able to find it on his own (PLEASE!!!!!), so I am not too stressed.

And I realised that the only reason I tried to give up the cuddles was because it seemed like everyone said I should. But I love the cuddles. Yes, I end up spending a fair bit of time in my baby's room rocking him during the day, but I love that time. So quiet and sweet and special. Its a nice rest for me too, where I don't have to (can't in fact) do anything else like dishes or whatever.

So between that and all your kind replies, I am a happy cuddler. Its so sweet when he just "collapses" on me like pp said.