Oh hun, I hear ya. Apparently we're not allowed to be frustrated or upset or have a vent unless we're willing to accept all pieces of advice on how to fix it - even if we weren't looking for a solution, just venting. One of my MG heard me complain about DS's constant night-feeding and offered me a sachet of formula Why can't I just whinge for a minute without getting thrown stupid advice and "solutions"?

Also...my rule of thumb is that any advice that begins with "He HAS to LEARN..." is crap advice and should be disregarded as soon as possible.

You ARE doing a great job. keep reminding yourself of that and go gently - with yourself as well as with your DD