BG - thanks for your post.

Thing is, she can self settle and fall asleep on her own for her day sleeps too.... she doesn't always feed to sleep.... I shouldn't say that cos' its not true. She can and will fall asleep on her own some days in her cot when she's showing tired signs and grizzling and she'll go to bed on her own after 5mins or so in her cot rolling around lol.....

At around 4-6mth mark we had everything going really well, she could put her self to sleep, she would go to bed same time EVERY night and not wake again for hours later after a big BF before her bed time etc.....

Just seems now that she's an older baby she is more aware of what is going on and just REFUSES to go to sleep...... and because of her lack of sleep she's not as happy and is tired alot of the time but just keeps on fighting through the tiredness..... she's generally a really happy bubba!

She's also not a dummy baby, never would take one and I'm glad anyway so now i don't have to wean her off one!!! BUT she will use me as her dummy and thats fine too. It's natural.

I guess I just feel at a LOSS at the moment..... like where to from here sort of thing..... I feel I have tried everything and done the right things and i know i'm an awesome Mum etc!! it's just so exhausting and I am finding her sleep at the moment really rather CHALLENGING for me. And it's hard at night time cos' she will quite often only want to settle with me rather than DH so it's like I just don't get a break..... i know Motherhood is 24/7 and that's fine but when they dont' sleep well for weeks day and night its soooo hard hey!!!
DH is great at the moment he's keeping her occupied to give me a well deserved break! it's been a tough day!