fair enough
i'm kinda lucky with DD and the dummy - she'll take it, but only when she's tired - and as soon as she's asleep (often before) she spits it out! she also refuses unless waaaaaaaaaay over tired now, to go to sleep on the breast - too much else to look at i guess lol
Bella self settles and still does when she goes to bed! I have just decided to not force her to go to bed and if its 10pm then thats how it has to be at this stage - she just plays and walks around all the furniture and things like that. If we try and force her then she gets upset and I dont want that.
We have thrown her into bed with us in the middle of the night of late and she goes traight back to sleep so once she is asleep I will put her back in the cot - she sometimes sleeps with us all the rest of the night but she HOGS the bed!!
Bella sleeps very well during the day (2 x 2hr sleeps some days) so I may drop a day sleep to help with her night sleeping.
I think that at these ages that they are so aware of whats going on that they dont want to miss out!!
I'm actually glad DD falls asleep on the boob cos' it is soooo handy!! I'm happy to keep doing it too as it seems to work for us. Sometimes when I put her down though, yes she will start crying as if to say "mum don't leave me i was comfy!" but most of the time she won't....
Jakabella - yeah its hard when they refuse to go to sleep at a decent time huh?? Last night it was 11pm for DD she went down at 9pm but woke 3 times between 9 and 11!!! Argh!
Marcellus - thanks, yeah I think my Mum thinks its manipulation because that is what they were taught perhaps 30yrs ago.... I too agree with you. It's just responsive parenting. I try not to listen to some of the 'older' parenting styles since there is more update knowledge these days
And yep we do put her in her cot from the start and during the night if she feeds, she will be put back to her cot but other times i am too exhausted and she falls asleep next to us.... which is nice as we wake up with a little cute face staring back at us
I just wonder.... will she eventually go back to going to bed at a decent time? say 7pm again>???? one day?? cos that was good..... LOL!!
Jakabella - yep we are the same.... we don't see why we should force her to sleep if she doesnt' want to and it only upsets her.... so she just sits up and plays on the floor and rolls around etc.... she then lets us know when she's really had enough... (finally LOL!).
You are lucky in that if you have a bad night, you can have a few hours sleep in the day!!!
Don't get me wrong, some days DD will sleep a 2hr sleep sometimes 3hr sleep! but not every day....
Ive only skimmed the responses...apologies if i repeat....but YES...i defn think the move has had some impact on her. But it sounds like your making things comforting for her, your not expecting her to deal with all this change in a night.
I sooo know what you mean about the 7pm bed time thing. I tend to get excited at around 6pm....coz i know the children will be in bed in 1 hrs time....so i totally get that you feel a bit ripped off that your not getting your time, or time with DH. It will pass.
I was going to suggest a blankie, a toy, or a soft book or something she can take to bed....DD#2 and DD#3 both take their stuffed animal to bed - tweety and doggie. It comforts them immensely...and now that i think about it, around 10-12mths was the time they latched onto it.
Just going to ask...when is her last day sleep ??? Around that age, i always made sure they didnt sleep after 4ish....so as we could get them into bed by 7pm
Hey hun . I haven't read all the responses, so I hope I don't go over the same old same old .
DO NOT worry about setting up bad habits, rod for your back etc!!!!!! My DS (who you probably remember was not the world's best sleeper!) never went 'to bed' until after 8.30pm, and it would most often be later than that.......like 9.30-10! Until the last few months........now, if he has a day sleep, he is asleep by 8.30pm. If he doesn't have a day sleep, he is asleep between 7-7.30pm. This is the first time we've had 'couple time' of an evening since DS was born! And TBH, most of the time it's great, but sometimes we just want to get him back up again . Especially DH who doesn't see him during the day.
We mostly co-slept from about 8-9 months, until 2 years (and still do if DS is unsettled with teething/illness/whatever). If only to get some sleep! And DS would feed alot during the night too, until about 18 months. We just went with whatever got ALL of us the most sleep. And that would be my advice to anyone......just go with what works for you and your baby. Whatever gets you all some sleep. Because no one, not adults or babies, functions well without it. If I could change anything in the last two and a half years, it would be NOT to worry about creating bad habits. You can change them when things are easier! And most often, the child changes them on their own anyway .
Gosh, all of that was probably not helpful in the least, but I really just wanted to emphasise....not to worry! I know it's ***** when you're so tired but it really will get better. (Remember hearing that in the early days of BFing??? ). This time goes sooooo fast. Snatch up all the cuddles and co sleeping that you can! You know you are a lovely, responsive mummy keep up the good work hun.
hugs hun were having issus too so i know how you feel!
i second the comforter too, DD has one and it helps alot! she has a blankie and automatically loooks for it when going to bed, its also great when were out.
we have hit and miss nights here. sleeps through some, others she wakes once at 4am others its a few times. i sometimes co-sleep especially if she wont settle after the 4am feed.
i not any help but wanted to offer a hug
do whatever works for you at the time, if it is less stressful letting her stay up until 9pm than spending time agonising trying to force her to sleep, then let her stay up... honestly try not to worry about 'bad habits' - kids are resilient and its easy for them to be trained out of most things, kids that have been dependent on dummies all their life often give them up in just a few days, you think it can't be done but it can!
also she doesn't KNOW what time it is, she doesn't know she is going to bed at 9pm instead of 7pm.... i noticed a huge improvement on my little girl's sleep when she began to walk, she started having day sleeps and night time settled down a bit...
honestly its up to you how you go about doing things in your own home, but i spent a lot of time trying to force my dd into what she 'should' be doing, and at the end of the day, i would have enjoyed motherhood a whole lot better if i had of relaxed and followed her lead.... i know its hard not having couple time now, but say in 3 months time things settle down and she is in bed by 7pm, would you rather have spent those 3 months trying to get her to sleep, or would you prefer to have her on a playmat etc until she is exhausted and just wait out the phase....
if you decide the phase isn't ending you can always come up with a plan of attack, but honestly, most periods of unsettledness sort themselves out in time...
its easy for an outsider to say she is manipulating you into staying up later (even though she doesn't know what 'later' really is?!) but at the end of the day you are the one who has to deal with it, so do whatever works for you and what you can live with best...
ps just wanted to say that YES, she will go to bed at a reasonable time again, seriously i promise.... once they are walking you can physically tire them out in the afternoon by doing lots of outside time and physical activity - they get knackered and have no choice but to pass out!!
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she went down at 9pm but woke 3 times between 9 and 11!!! Argh!
. I haven't read all the responses, so I hope I don't go over the same old same old
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. Especially DH who doesn't see him during the day.
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