hugs hun were having issus too so i know how you feel!
i second the comforter too, DD has one and it helps alot! she has a blankie and automatically loooks for it when going to bed, its also great when were out.
we have hit and miss nights here. sleeps through some, others she wakes once at 4am others its a few times. i sometimes co-sleep especially if she wont settle after the 4am feed.
i not any help but wanted to offer a hug