Another thought, do you wrap her in the cot? As one of the others have said, you need so much patience when transfering them into the cot - they've been in this beautiful, warm, cosy, dark place for eight months and they are then placed in a colder, wider, open place - you can imagine how insecure she probably feels. I noticed you mentioned something about spoiling her or being reliant on the hug-a-bub, you definitely aren't spoiling them, there are many benefits to wearing your baby and the info is all listed in the article on the main site about babywearing, lots of great things come with babywearing including sleep