Just wanted to share - we went to a Mother & Baby Unit here, but they didn't practice controlled crying or anything like that. It was a HUGE relief to us that that was the case.

They helped us identify what Jacob's tired cues were and then helped us with getting him soundly to sleep - all of which was very hands on with lots of patting, rocking, soothing music - whatever Jacob needed. They were happy to try umpteen gentle and comforting settling techniques so that we could find something gentle that Jacob responded to. There was no letting him cry - one of the first things they said to us is that they believed that controlled crying just teaches the baby that if they need Mummy or Daddy, that they won't come, so it kind of teaches helplessness - and those are not things that DH or I were comfortable with. They also helped us with minor evening routine changes which made all the difference - we found that sometimes the smallest thing being changed can really help, so tweaking our evening routine just a fraction, really helped Jacob a lot.

Anyway, I just thought I'd share that as I don't think all sleep schools are the same - this one definitely wasn't and it was such a relief that that was the case!!! I thought that all sleep schools did CC, so it was very reassuring to know that we were in a place that supported gentle techniques.