My hubby is the one who loves telling everyone we are trying. It's unbelievable, he even told the check-out chic at Best and Less! We live in a small town and although DH is tling every man and his dog that we are trying I have only told 1 or 2 close friends. They are the type of people who will just wait quietly until we tell them we are pg. As for when to tell, I can't imagine waiting 12 weeks. I told most people at 6-8wks with DS as I felt if we did loose the baby I would rather my family be aware than make some stupid comment while we were dealing with it. This time I am working as a teacher so I will probably hold off telling too many people around town until 12weeks or when I have seen/heard the HB - unless of course MS makes it glaringly obvious. Anyway now I have babbled long enough, Good luck with your choice