DH and I are still undecided as to whether we will have a third or not. I think we probably will but we have agreed that I need to go back to work to get a bit of financial security first... We have just taken on a second mortgage and need to get that a bit under control as well as wanting to do some renos to our new house, so we need to fund that somehow!
Whenever I hear of someone else announcing a pg, I am so delighted for them... But I feel a bit jealous. I want that again. That excitement when you poas, the thrill of seeing the second line, the joy of sharing the news.
I know being pg is tough and I know I am crazy for wanting that with two already... But I still want it.
We always said we wanted our kids close together and DS was totally planned... But we have had a bit of a hard time with the two of them and think that a bit of a bigger age gap won't be a bad thing with the third, if we have one.
We're thinking we will start trying around Christmas... We think Sept next year is a good time for a bub... That's what we think.
But then the irrational, sentimental, emotional part of me thinks how nice it'd be to have the third close to the others. The symmetry of having an 09, 10, 11 trio of kids. Now instead
I'll have 09, 10, 12. Assuming I can even conceive successfully when we want to. And it bums me. Crazy huh?
Even crazier... I am disappointed that I won't be able to say I have 3 under 3. There, I said it!
I just can't help it. No matter how DH and I rationalize it, I can't shake it.
And when I take my pill a bit late... Or miss one... I secretly think "maybe I'll get pg!!"
I'm silly, I know...
Just wanted to get this out... It's been brewing for a while...
Hope you feel better sharing! DH and I are always wondering when is the 'right' time to have a bubba- I know the jealousy feeling very well and think it's a good indication of a natural instinct of knowing when the right time is approaching, not silly at all. Good luck with your decision making
It sounds like youve already made up your mind. I went back and fourth in my own mind about going for baby #3, but once I made my mind up there was no going back, and I think you will feel the same way. Of course its easier with only two kids, but who ever said that easier is better? I know what you mean about the excitment and thrill of pg. You are right it really is a feeling you cant get rid of...maybe for good reason.
my mum would say 'the baby is knocking'...it's totally normal to want more children, and to want it now rather than later. I am sad our society is such that babies can't just appear whenever we want them. It sounds like you and dh have some important reasons for delaying, and I think you could perhaps take a 'wait and see what these next few months bring' approach...you never know dh might change his mind...but in the meantime you've made headway financially.
Do it hun, doesnt matter about the symetry, doesnt matter about the 3 under 3, do it because u want to. do it to love another little life
i have briefly bought up number 4 with DF, idealy i'd love to try asap and have number 4 this yr, but he has his own understandable reservations about it.
sounds to me like you've made ur mind up, and if u do it at chrissy time you'll feel better for being more financially secure and wont have that extra stress next yr
Hehe I understand the years thing, I'm a bit disappointed that I never got a 2010 baby to finish off the kids!! That would have meant only 13 months between the last two at the most, which is a bit scary lol
I say go with your heart.. Everything else always has a way of working itself out.
go on - i dare ya lol
never a 'right' time to have kids
its just always a 'good' time
just make sure you are BOTH 110% committed to the idea before the fact
dont want any hurdles in your way
hugs hun
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This feeling won't go away...
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