Hi all, can I join in here?

I think I am already a disastrous-swayer, but maybe being in this thread will help me out a little.

Am ttc #2, have a gorgeous spectacular ds who is 14 months. The first month of ttc I stopped bd-ing a couple of days before O, (doing the vaguely-shettles thing for a girl), didn't get utd and thought "Screw this!!!" So I just can't abstain on my most fertile days, I want a baby too badly and I am not young enough to muck around! Anyway, will *really* have to look more at the dietary stuff. I have stopped eating bananas and adding salt but that is about it.

I am also unlikely to try anything which decreases chances of conception (which a lot of the girl things are), so things that dry up cm etc are not for me!

I had an early mc the month before last, and feel vaguely guilty for the little "ooh, i hope it's a girl" thought that I had when I first found out I was utd.

This month was pretty terrible on the swaying front - I O'd 2 days early (what the???), so ended up dtd only right on O (perfect boy-recipe right?), not to mention the fact that isn't early ovulation correlated with higher chances of having a boy?