He just laughed at me :( TTC Vent

[Shanti]

I agree. Every 2nd day is a bit more realistic.... it's very tiring doing it EVERY day!! (been there myself).....

Try to put your DH on zinc tablets if you can, I really think that helped us!!

Sounds like he's just not taking it as seriously as you are, which I think some guys are just like that! try not to get too worked up about it as it just won't help (I know easier said than done huh!).... big hugs. TTC sucks!!

[Taurean]

It can be so damn tough some times!

I think suggesting DTD every day that you can is a bit unrealistic too hon but if you did manage that, I'd give you 10 points for effort! My DH made it quite clear when we started TTC DD that he didn't want to be made to feel like a 'sperm donor' and trying to shovel pills into him (I tried to get him to take zinc) and jump him at every chance only made him distant and annoyed at me. Looking back, that's fair enough too.

Are you/still using OPKs? I highly recommend the ClearBlue Digital OPKs. Super easy, no nonsense and no guess work. I'd also recommend trying PreSeed if you haven't already. BF tends to dry up your CM which is why it referred to as a birth control, so to speak. PreSeed is great to give you a bit of extra sperm friendly CM. Also, are you using FF? It's fun to use (and so interesting!) and helps 'pass the time' while TTC I reckon

I really hope it all comes together for you this month hon. I have everything crossed for you.

[NaeNae]

Thanks Ladies

Sex these days is a chore anyway neither of us are ever really in the mood despite good intentions. DD almost always ends up in bed with me through the night which means DH ends up on the couch. Its also usually 9pm before we have "time" to ourselves and by then he is snoring on the couch anyway.

As for seducing ... um .. so thats like foreplay huh? sorry not having a dig but the ONLY reason we seem to dtd is when we're TTC and ONLY because I initiate it. And I am serious which is really sad.

Taurs - will get some Preseed stuff is it pharmacy or supermarket? Zinc in an excellent suggestion surely he can do that! I gave up trying to do the OPK's and FF seemed to stress me out too much trying to get ALL the right information, thats too much like hard work

I ahve to admit, they way our sex life is its a friggin miracle we EVER fell pregnant in the first place,but thats a whole other thread.

Thanks again lovelies x x x x

[Liz]

As for seducing ... um .. so thats like foreplay huh? sorry not having a dig but the ONLY reason we seem to dtd is when we're TTC and ONLY because I initiate it. And I am serious which is really sad.

LOL - well it's good in theory Don't worry... you are not alone. We were exactly the same.. and the longer it took to fall, the worse it got

[miloro]

Nae, I completely understand where you are coming from. After Dh constantly telling me "it'll happen when it happens" I snapped at him. Yes, it will happen when it happens but for it to happen we need to DTD and seeing as though a woman only has a very small window of fertility each cycle, he needs to step up to the plate particularly as TTC was his idea (sorry for making this my vent). We agreed that from O being confirmed until a week after AF we were on his clock and after that we were on mine and he had to step up - doesn't always go my way but better than nothing. If you find the answer to get a DH to be more involved and understanding, share it with the rest of us. Until then,

[~clover~]

When we were trying for DS it did take a while. I was off contraception for 11 months. Trying for about half that.
FWIW it was the month we dtd every night I concieved him! Towards the end I was soooo over it!

Men aren't that interested in the finer details, thats all. When you know everything & keep talking about it, they get tired of it. They just want the fun stuff.

Every 2nd day should be enough. Try different things Have a shower together, go for a walk outside, get someone to watch DD while you both go for milk
Be sneaky... makes it more fun

[~TT40~]

*big hugs*

[Taurean]

You need to get Pre-Seed from some pharmacies or online. Got to preseed dot com dot au It seemed to work well for us at the month we used it, we conceived DD. Someone was selling some Pre-Seed on here too...will hunt down the thread.

I say start using OPK's again too. Give the ClearBlue Digital ones a go - they aren't hard to use at all. When you're ovulating (or about to), you get a smiley face on the screen! You just need to DTD around the 48 hours of getting the smiley and you're done. I bought my last pack on eBay from the UK and they were so much cheaper than in Aus. I paid $60 for 20 tests and 10 HPTs where the OPKs are $70 for 7 here in Aus!

Don't be too hard on yourself hon. It's tough to get in the mood when you're a parents and BF can sometimes make it worse. I really didn't find my mojo again until DD weaned. I know that's no help to you but just wanted to let you know it can be and is normal

ETA: Here's the thread for the Pre-Seed for sale https://www.bellybelly.com.au/forums...-price-157154/ - Shanti has it!