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thread: Hhhh....eee...lll....pp!!!!!

  1. #19
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    Dec 2006
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    Okay still waiting for AF!!! feel like it is coming
    LOOK OUT TMI about to come but when I wipe its just fertile EWM and loads of it!!!
    Sore boobs..but not much else..enough to make me think if this is menopause..it sucks..I can't imagine my boobs feeling like this all the time.
    I really can't remember my last AF and I'm not sure if I should count the 3 days of very light spotting which would have been Feb sometime..we only DTD once without protection and I can't really recall a date etc..but it would have been before this light spotty...and now I can't get out of my head maybe that was an implanatation bleed!!! geez..

    I am really reluctant to go back to the docs because I spend half my life there already and i am am sick of looking stupid...I have done a docs urine test which was my first + but very faint and can't be sure if it came up after the time..because I looked at it before i was about to throw it away..I took that test to the docs and he said that it could'nt be counted and ordered the BT which came back neg but with no numbers since then I have done 2 crystal clear test 3 days apart first came up with a faint + right at max time next came up with a very faint line as the pee went up the stick but so faint that I had to keep looking at it..those test have a shiny cover so the light hits it and is hard to see but its there..fainter tahn the previous one though I should have waited untilt he mornign but figured it was 3 days later it should still come up plus I had a bee in my bonnett and could'nt wait any longer once I had started thinkin g about it again...whne it was fainter I decided just to wait it out expecting to bleed in the next few days..but nope nothing yet!!

    Everything I read says sperm can't live for more than 6 months after a VAS..and given the fact his did'nt increase they consider it was an effective operation..but as I said to him last night when he had his second test done..it would ahve been closer to 12 months and it still had live sperm..so if i am I hope this is recorded somewhere..other than that maybe its my imagiantion?? or perhaps a phantom pregnancy( OMG that would be awful..but my body has been preganant so many times before and at about this timing what if it decided to do that to me) ??? menopause?? stress?? I have been more stressed before and still gotten AF... I have never missed an AF I am either on time or early except for when I am BFP
    I really don't think I am..it just does'nt seem posible??? but the thought keeps creeping back in....just because of AF absence..
    and Kerry they don't refund..they send a letter home to cover their asses..saying that it can reattatch etc...and DH is at fault here as well..by not going to have testing done everytime I have had to hound him to do it..and even now he can't remember where he put the request form....sooo angry with him. Apparently the doc told him to go home have sex and withdraw to clear the sperm out..I told DH to get lost!!!! after getting preg with Tilly there was no way that I would take that chance..but apparently i will..I guess you just think there is no way there could be live sperm after all that time..and being that much older really what are the chances??
    Not good I would think..so again i don't think I am..but I am goign to have to go again and make sure nothing more sinister is going on..any thoughts on reasons why HCG would be happening? I can't find any reasons when i google it.

  2. #20
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    I think your AF being absent is reason enough for you to go back to your GP. It is likely that the first thing he will do is order some blood tests (including HCG levels) to exclude pregnancy and find out if you have a hormonal imbalance that is causing your symptoms. My husband has also had the snip and I too live in fear of anything getting through, so you have my fullest sympathy.

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    Yeah Traveller so much for relaxing after what should be a final operation..I am thinking maybe I willl have to go back on the pilll etc..which just seems crazy after all the years of trying to have babies...thanks for your thoughts on my DD 2.5years thread.

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    Definately go back to the dr for piece of mind hun. Even if it's to explore other possibilities as to why you don't have AF. Sending huge your way!

  5. #23
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    I have a mirena IUD as well as DH having the snip, but I am still scared it's not enough if going back on the pill makes you feel better then I think you should do it

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    lol thats funny....I really don't want to use anything else and so far have been avoiding DTD..we all know how that works out!!!
    How long since your DH had his op and has he had a clear test yet?

  7. #25
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    I think I'd be biting the bullet, Pam, and asking for blood tests and ultrasound because I'd be scaring myself with imagining up an ectopic pregnancy scenario or pending miscarriage. I've been getting the lecture from my GP about using other precautions as I'm still on the mini-pill (finding it harder than I thought it would be to wean Matthew completely...) but I've have been using the odds against anything happening argument too.
    Hope you get an answer soon. And that your DH either finds that request form or goes and gets another one!

  8. #26
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    18 months since my husband had his op but he never got a sample checked (too much bother, too far out his way, etc etc). The mirena was actually to control my periods byt the contraceptive side effect does reassure me a lot (although the fear never quite leaves me that both could fail). What I wanted was a radical hysterectomy but they refused on the basis that I was 28 and healthy :|

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    Hope everything is ok Pam.. Hope to hear from you soon xx

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    Yes how are things going? Any answers yet?

  11. #29
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    Thanks all..kind of got answers?

    went and bought another HPT decided to use it then and there..wee then wiped and there was a streak of blood..thought phew!!!
    nothing much happened all day..that night I had really bad back pain..right across my lower back I thought great this is whats goign to happen now ( after each baby my body comes up with some smancy new system for gettign and having AF) never had thsi before..I fell asleep on my side.. I kept having weird dreams and slept on and off.... in the early hours I woke with a crampy pain coming in waves I was forced up to the toilet when I got there a big blob fell out palm size (I looked at it, thought about retrieving it then decided, that there was no point...nothing would ever be done anyway)
    I am convinced I MC it was so much like what happened when I lost the baby before my DS..same sensation..as it was happening..the thought was running through...since then the sore boobs have eased and the fertile EWM has gone..there has'nt been much bleeding very light..and still crampy now I am down to watery type loss sorry if thats TMI. I may have to be checked out anyway..there does'nt seem to have been enough of a loss, regardless of what ever happened.

    Dh found his request form and has submitted his sample...I'm pretty sure it is coming back with live sperm if so he will be off having another op..if it does'nt I have no idea what happened.. I feel strange and am keeping a close eye on myself, making sure nothing odd crops up..anyway thanks for listening and all your help..I won't be DTD unprotected anytime soon!!!!

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    Sorry to hear even though it was like for the best with all things considered although nothing really makes a loss any easier.

    To answer your first question, yes I have had a neg BT to end in a +BT. I am pregnant with that baby now and I was definitely pregnant when I got the negative result. So yes it is possible hope you are doing ok

  13. #31
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    Sounds like a rotten time, I'm so sorry That's exactly why I wanted a hysterectomy, because it's the only way that there will never be any chance of pregnancy.

  14. #32
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    Sorry to read this Pam xx

  15. #33
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    so sorry to hear about that make sure you keep an eye on yourself and get yourself checked out anyway, you don't want to get yourself sick or anything. big to you xoxox

  16. #34
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    Sorry, Pam, to read your update. Yes, please keep a close eye on yourself and if you can, get in to have a check up too. Sounds like your DH is heading for another op! Good that he found the request form AND has sent away a sample. Flippity Flip! Much love to you.

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