Hi pfb, without seeing and talking to you guys in person please take all this advice as general, it does not specifically apply to you or your partner until you are in an actual consult with your chosen health care professional. In regards to laptops, aussiegirl777 is right, it's heat emission that is the prob, a rise of 2.8 degrees celcius is sufficient to impair spermatogenesis (Human Reproduction Advance Access, published online Dec 9 2004) Different studies associated with IVF have shown better sperm results from men abstaining from alcohol in the month leading up to sperm collection. (Fertility and Sterility 2003;79:330-339) The general rule would be to moderate alcohol consumption, to me that means less than every other day, ie. 3 days a week max, and not to excess on those occasions. With food etc etc. Do book in with someone, there are great, and cheap, naturopaths at BB. Then you will get information tailored to yourselves you can trust 100%! gl and private message or drop me an email if you'd like. justin@bellybelly.com.au