It can be so confusing when you really think about all the logistics - even concerning!! Funnily enough, DH & I had a chat this morning about how different it's going to be having a second - I was a wreck for the first 6 wks with #1!! But my downfall back then was I was so stubborn I didn't enlist half the amount of help I should have!! This time tho it'll be sooo different. Different too because I'm closer to family than I was a couple of years back (amazing what a child can do!).

One of my worries about adding #2 is my DD - I worry that she'll feel left out, no longer in the spotlight.

However, I've found myself looking at it this way - yes, we are set up for another when the day comes and in the grand scheme of life, those first few months will fly so quickly that I don't want to put off adding to our precious little family another bundle of personality to love and nurture and dote on! And in relation to DD, I try and get her involved in our normal day to day life anyways, letting her help mummy and daddy with whatever she can. So I see having a baby will be the same - DD will be mummy's big girl helper.

Oh I know there will be juggling acts involved! I do want to still have my one on one time with DD so she doens't think mummy has moved on!

Of course, it's a personal choice how many and when people add further litt'ns to the mix. But I've also found that sometimes, concerns won't necessarily feel completely eased until you are in the situation - kinda like being nervous as how I was going to be at being a mum while I was pg - wasnt much I could do but wait and just do it when the time came - then found out how much I loved it!!

Either way, I have no doubt that you are a simply fab mummy and will be to others if you choose to have then, regardless of when you have them - and you will still be that fab mummy to your first littl'n at the same time!! You sound like you have a wonderfully supportive DH as well so together, you can do anything!!!

Sorry, long woffle post!! Hope you get a good sleep!! LOL!! Good luck with it all too!!

P.S. I am also sure that you are going to hear from far more experienced mummies too who have BTDT!!!