ungrateful older kids,dont even notice how much we do/pay/clean, contibuting to bills

[sue1386]

ungrateful older kids. they dont even notice how much we do/pay for them!

i have had some good years and experiences and some really bad ones of kids totally not realising how much we do and pay for them and treating me so badly and getting away with it as there is noone in the family who would put them in their place

i remember seeing a different situation where a father stood up and said to the teen' there isnt enough money that could pay your mother for what she does for you'

i'm really sick of this. we follow up health things, questions, education, we clean we buy food pay bills and they are so so so selfish and not recognising realising any of this.

he also says taht all his friends say its ridiculous that he should contribute to any bills, while in so many families this is needed and common and i cant afford allthe bills as a single parent and every child does add alot to bills.

I've given decades of my life to my kids and i'm feeling for my own health and progress i need to focus on myself, all areas of my life and not take them so seriously as they drain my health, and are so downputting. I feel gutted by their ungratefulness, tempers, rudeness taking without even realising how much they take etc. and truly i've had enough

any comments please.

how can i get them to be more grateful

they dont even notice how much work goes into returning things, getting things, following up things. so what am i meant to do , next time they ask for something or mention an issue tell them that in the past i've followed thigns up and helped them and thent hey act like i do nothing and are so ungrateful not even noticing how much i do for them , so i dont think i want to help in this situation.

its really tough to be a parent and be so taken for granted. the less i do the better fo rmy health i think but i've been alone in my life so i dont want them to be alone when they need support, but i do wish they would remember and appreciate much much more. they dont seem to remember or appreciate anything!