First of all - huge You're not hideous - and your DH probably desires the person inside as much as the outside!

There is only one thing I have to say to you (look at moie!) - slow and steady wins the race. If you ever find yourself doing something you think you shouldn't (cake, slacking off, etc) DO NOT see that as failure, but as a small hump in the road. You're still on the road (just by recognising that it's not exactly the right thing to be doing), but slowed down a bit.

Good luck hun and I think about half of BB are there with ya!