The thing that bothers me is when i was working a 9-5 job i still had same responsibilities. Before the kids DP would cook 1 night a week and maybe a BBQ on weekends. Help with cleaning everynight we'd take turns washing or drying dishes.

Once our 1st baby came he was all excuses with bubs. He's too small to bath, i have a weak stomach i cant change him, i breast feed for 3 months so i got i cant feed him then it was he doesnt like it when i feed him, he likes you to put him to bed, he doesnt like me he wont go to me... Blah blah. Then cos i was home all the house hold stuff was done. (being only 18 everyone said i would fail and need help so i fought to do EVERYTHING without anyones help) Then i started part time work and still no help (i mean nothing except the bins to the curb and mowing the grass... oh and he does a bad job too) He doesnt even take his plate out after dinner.

Now after 2nd bubs i'm struggling to fit things in and sleep is minimal. I asked for help and i get "well you did ok with DS, or "i go to work"

Yes he does work so i can stay home but the way i see it if i was in a paid job i would be Child care worker or Cleaner. DP wonders why there isnt US time but if i got a hand every now and then i would have US time and ME time aswell... Its just being in a partnership. Yes some days i can do it all myself Others could it hurt to give me a hand.