I did alot of the work around the house ... about two years back his sole responsibility was to SHARRAP!!!!! That's it. I would do EVERYTHING, but he is not allowed to say a word, moan or critisised (sp)

NOW I feel we have a good balance. He does the garden (could be nicer) takes out the trash, BBQ twice a week, shower with dd, put dd to bed. He even started dinner last night on his own!! He still does not throw his papers in the bin or his clothes in the wash, but that does not bother me anymore .. picking up stuff has become a speciality with me, having kids and all.

I'm old fashioned .. I believe that if you are a SAHM, it's your job to look after the kids and the house. It's the man's job to bring home da bacon - BUT that does not mean that he can't help out now and then ... out of his own accord .. or just say that he SEES what you are doing and that you are doing a good job and are a good mommy/wife/lover/friend/woman. I feel that 90% of women would not mind doing 100% of the work if they get the recognition for it .. and the odd bunch of roses