Reply With QuoteThat sounds painful. Are you able to show him how to do it properly? It's not being a control freak to rinse the dishes first, it's being sensible and saving having to wash them twice.
Alternatively, can you wear gloves?
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The dishes dillema... ;)
So i have really bad eczema stuff on my hands which makes it hard for me to do anything water/cleaning related.. sounds good hey!!! Well not when your a control freak lol!!!!!
So DH has had to pretty much take over dishes and its quite a funny saga!! Well funny as in i have to laugh or i will cry!!! He will load the dishwasher with "UNRINSED DISHES" (i told you, control freak here) which erks me to no end!!! I go to put them away and there is still bloody food on the plates!! HELLO!!
But it gets better, the poor dear has also taken to washing dishes by hand when he does DD's bottles as he has a sink full of washing up water, so he goes and washes dishes by hand... but ya know what??? He does such a crap job there that i wait til he isnt home and i put those dishes in the dishwasher!!!! lol
But the funniest thing is that ok there are some things that just dont go in the dishwasher, chopping boards and a few things like that, and do you think they are washed when he does his by hand dishes???? NOPE!!!!They get left and stay there for a few more days lol
The poor guy, he is trying, and he does have to do so much more since my hands have started playing up, i should be more appriciative and maybe let go a bit!! Maybe thats the lesson to learn here!! But for now.. i am just gonna laugh!!!!!!!
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That sounds painful. Are you able to show him how to do it properly? It's not being a control freak to rinse the dishes first, it's being sensible and saving having to wash them twice.
Alternatively, can you wear gloves?
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I haven't let my DP do dishes since we moved in which was almost 2 years ago. He is so rough that he breaks things. He is always complaining about my washing skills lol im the one who leaves stuff on plates and cups.
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Write him up Very detailed list of how you want things done lol. Dh is a control freak when it comes to dishes but, over time I've learnt how to keep him happy. I'm sure your dh will learn.
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Hehehe, you wouldn't like me then. I don't rinse dishes before they go in the dishwasher and I put everything in there that will fit including chopping boards
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Too funny. I do that with baking dishes too! Tis ok, another five rounds in the dishwasher and it'll come good!
Hehehe, you wouldn't like me then. I don't rinse dishes before they go in the dishwasher and I put everything in there that will fit including chopping boards
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Is he doing it on purpose like my DH? I swear he does certain things so badly or 'forgets' that I end up banning him from doing them! I started 'forgetting' to wash his work clothes and one night I 'forgot' to make him dinner and he got miraculously better!
When my hands got bad when DS was born, I got tongs for the cloths/nappies in the laundry, soap free hand wash for nappy changes and gloves for the washing up. DH wouldn't buy it that I couldn't do the dishes anymore! GL
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I don't always rinse before the dishwasher, just scrape the bits off into the bin and away they go... they always come out clean!
Can you wear some cotton lined rubber gloves to do the dishes?
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Put sticky notes up? Right in his line of sight?
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Remind him to clean out the filter. Maybe once he does that he'll understand the mechanics of the cleaning process and 'cotton onto' the fact that the dishwasher isn't magic. If it's not used properly it will fail. Guys are practical creatures, very visual. I suspect that he will need to see with his own eyes that if the large scraps of food aren't scraped off the plates that they WILL accumulate and gunk up the machine in the filter and pipes... and then he'll have to fork out for the cost of a plumber to ungunk everything. Also the idea of re-circulated gunky water from months of accumulated old scraps of food might not be a very appealing idea
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I have really sensitive hands as well, and I have to make sure I use cotton lined gloves, but I also wear an extra pair of just cotton gloves underneath them.. If my hand are really bad I put on cream before the gloves and also make sure the water isnt too hot...(which sucks as I love to wash in really hot water, but not good for the hands)
I wash by hand now, as I was sick of the dishwasher doing such a crap job and it has now died on us anyway!! hehehe
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Maybe leave him a step by step list on how you do things/how things should be done, maybe he'll take the hint
that's me tooHehehe, you wouldn't like me then. I don't rinse dishes before they go in the dishwasher and I put everything in there that will fit including chopping boardsexcept DF doesnt wash up or touch the dishwasher, like anything around the house i ask him to do i usually correct whatever he's done wrong/different when he isnt looking
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Hahahaha, thanks for a bit of a giggle everyone!!
Yeah i have tried gloves, mummato1, you sound exactly like me, i do the cream, then vasaline (helps to repell any water) then cotton gloves then rubber gloves.. and sadly no hot water although i looooove it!!! I am so sad!!!
DH is one of those people who once he gets told he is doing something wrong he will basically never do it again.. so i just sit back quietly and appriciate what effort he does put in willingly!!! lol If i make a joke out of it i can usually get somewhere, but if i was to do a list OH dear lol, not gonna happen!! lol And i think he does rinse them, but i have this cool scrubby thingy that is a scrubbing brish that holds dishwashing liquid and i scrub them with that before they go in, i might just remind him that is there next time!!
Cleaning the filter is a fantastic idea!!! We have just moved to a new house too, so i might be able to get him to do it and it might be full of stuff coz i dont know if the old people were rinsers or not!! lol
I do think part of me does need to let go, it may the lesson i am supposed to learn here (trying to think of some crazy reason for my sudden onset of bizarro-world eczema psorisis on my hands and feet i have never had before!!) let go and not be so OCD about some things... i get anal about where things go in the dishwasher too... some times i re stack it after he is done.... the cutlery has to go in those little things all sorted, you cant mix knives with forks, and little spoons only go with little spoons.. but wait it gets worse.. we have a set of cutlery that goes on one of those rack things and then we have random mix and match cutlery in the drawer.... i seperate the different types of cutlery too.... yes, yes i am sad....
My name is Kat and i have a dishwasher addiction..... i need help....
But today i have gone and bought some new gloves.. i used up all my gloves during the moving house clean up so freash gloves and i should be able to get my fix for the next few days and have some time with my dishwasher!!
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Mixing the type of cutlery is actually recommended because if you put all the spoons etc together in the same section they are more likely to "nest" together leaving very little space between each piece for water to circulate. So my strategy is to have a complete set: a fork, a knife, a spoon etc in each section before doubling up. I hate doubling up as I worry the two of the same will end up sticking together. Make sense? LOL I'm just as particular.... Or peculiar... Just in a different way. But fortunately DH is of the same species as me. His relaxation is updating the Lego stocktaking spread sheet each weekend... Need I say more? Hehe
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Oh and another point about cutlery packing in dishwashers; they should be handle down and dirty end up. Yes it's more convenient putting the dirty end down into the holder because when it comes time to empty the dishwasher it's easier to grab a fistful to put away into the drawer. But doing it that way makes it harder for the water to thoroughly circulate around the dirty end meaning the next time you put it in your mouth it's more likely to be germy. Had to share
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Except for sharp knives like steak knives. For safety keep them downOh and another point about cutlery packing in dishwashers; they should be handle down and dirty end up. Yes it's more convenient putting the dirty end down into the holder because when it comes time to empty the dishwasher it's easier to grab a fistful to put away into the drawer. But doing it that way makes it harder for the water to thoroughly circulate around the dirty end meaning the next time you put it in your mouth it's more likely to be germy. Had to share
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I'm a bit anal about stacking the dishwasher too. I always restack it after DH has put dishes in
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Ah yes, thats true Astrid about sharp knives. We don't eat steak and don't have steak knives. I generally put the sharp knives horizontally along the top shelf and put the small paring knives down... Mostly... Sometimes they get put in pointy end up but they aren't really that sharp. I probably should be more conscientious about putting them down though.
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