We are a work in progress on learning a routine, but we are getting there. DH likes to read a book or watch TV (especially if Top Gear is on ) for an hour after the girls go to bed to de-stress from the day, and then he gets right into the cleaning. The first thing he does is load the dishwasher, and then he loads the washing machine. While they are running he cleans the toys up and all those other bits and pieces that accumulate. I have written a list of what *should* be done and how often it needs to be done, like the daily, weekly and monthy chores. When I am back on my feet the chores should be much quicker to get done, as when DH is doing them I am inspired to do them.