Hi Tracey,
I have belonged to an egg donation support site for a few years. It is for both donors and recipients and really helps to sort through some of the issues to do with egg donation and using donor eggs. It is a bit hard to find via search engines so I can send you link if you want. You have to request to be registered as it is a private forum due to the sensitive subject.
In melbourne the waitlist for donor eggs are over 5 years long so many people now try to find their own donors through advertising. If you know the melbourne's child mag there are about 13 adverts in their each month for egg donors. My fertility specialist says everyone she has treated who has advertised has found a donor. Some people do go overseas but there are some awful stories about donors being stimulated to get heaps of eggs which is not great for their health and of course it is expensive to travel there. I am happy to answer any questions you may have.
Gargy,
sorry about DH's stepdad. You have alot going on at the moment. I know how the uncertainty and waiting when dealing with a donor can get you down. I am very lucky that some of the lovely woman on the site I mentioned above get together regularly and it is really great to get together with people who know exactly where you are coming from and also who have really positive stories. These are donors and recipients and we are all woman so we chat openly about everything and get the others point of view on the whole situation! I think it must be difficult for you as the men being the donors, you can't really have the same relationship. have you managed to find any support groups where you can chat with peopel face to face.
Lulu, hope you are going OK. You sound very positive.
Hiya Marg, Hope the weightloss is progressing. You are right, having a baby in your arms, should not be too much to ask. Hope you get what you wish for soon.