My sister and I and our DH's talk extremely openly about donation. The one point that we are all (all 4 of us) caught on is what would we do if the baby looked like me??? We will do it anomously (even from our own family members) so no-one would know and it would be her DH sperm. I don't think I would have a problem differencing between being a donor and it being "my" baby and I would always only be an aunty but like I said it is the looks we are concerned about. Olivia looks identical to me when I was her age so would that baby too??
The other point that does pop up now and then is how do we explain it to the child when/if they ask?It is so hard.