Abusive DH

[Bathsheba]

I would consider the context. If I was living in fear then yes. If it was due to exceptional circumstances then probably not. I know my DH (we've been together 16 years) and he does NOT think hitting women is acceptable. However if, for example, it was because he was suffering from a mental illness or brain injury then I probably would stay as I know that this is not a part of his usual "makeup". My thyroid disease changes my brain chemistry sometimes and makes ME want to hit out some times and I would hope that he wouldn't leave me. DH isn't a big man though... of course he is stronger than me but he has never taken advantage of that. His usual personality is calm, polite and respectful... suddenly hitting would be soooooo out of character... it would make me seek help from a health professional and manage his behaviour with their assistance. If it became a regular thing I would have to then consider the future of our relationship... even if it was due to illness I think even he would suggest I move out.... that's the type of guy he is... he doesn't try to maintain power over me at all... we are equals in his eyes and deserve equal respect.

My stepfather used to have violence as a part of his usual makeup and my mother stayed with him for too long. Big mistake. They never change if it's part of who they are... just what my experience has shown.