There certainly have been wonderful posts.
Inanna, you are the only person who has truly listened to my belief about my lack of choice being a factor in my Ellen's death.
I have read posts here with such hope for the future. All the wonderful women who have living angels will be passing on this deep spiritual understanding of the glory of birth and the importance of the birthing mother. They will speak honestly and openly with their sons and daughters about the importance of this rite of passage and in time the system we have will change. Huge change is always slow but it will happen. Small voices will be heard.
I felt very out of control while waiting for doctors I didn't even know the name of before my appointments at the FMU at Canb Hospital (the reception staff never told me which dr I'd be seeing). Because of this feeling I have made huge inroads into improving the environment of the waiting room in memory of my daughter. I made (actually am still making) a very very small change in the lives of birthing mothers. I felt women deserved a better environment while waiting in pregnancy for the arrival of their precious children. Against my choice I had spent hours with my daughter in this area. I made a change. It is a tiny step but hopefully the people working in the area will use it to remember that the women they are caring for deserve high standards and respect....................There was quite a bit of rubbish being left in the area. Mostly due to the lack of bins being provided for use. Staff in the area clearly judged the women who left things behind as "lower class" and treated them poorly due to this judgement. Instead of looking at the space they provided for these stressed, worried people they blamed the people using the space for not being tidy.
This judgement led to their justification of not listening to womens choices. This is along the lines of "If you can't behave appropriately then how can you make an informed decision?"...........
The system actually creates it's own justifications...........then justifies removal of choice........
I am sorry to have gone on about my experiences and am happy to take flak over this. Please forgive me.......