Okey dokey, I can see everyone's point of view here.

Sue, I am currently in a situation where old, old friends have not been very supportive while I have been going through a difficult time. I've been hurt and disappointed and I count myself as a pretty resourceful, self-sufficient person. So I understand the hurt you feel. However, as the others have so wisely said, maybe your brother saw you making bad choice after bad choice, tried to warn you against making those choices and you chose to ignore him. We weren't there, we don't know. But people often do ignore really great advice and if someone was taking no notice of what I said, then I wouldn't feel like helping them financially OR emotionally either.

But we all have choices. Yours is very simple, it really is. You can either choose to say something to mend bridges. May work, may not. OR you can choose to say that he's hurt you in the past and that you'd rather not see him.

But the middle ground of not saying anything, maintaining sporadic contact and beating yourself up about whether or not to say anything doesn't appear to be working.

Good luck making your choice.