Ok, lets try and look at this from another angle.

I know someone who had a sibling in crisis. This girl bent over backwards to help their sibling. It went on for months, but at the end of it, all that changed was the girls 'cushy' life was in tatters and she had nothing left to give. The siblings situation did not change or get better at any time. It simply financially, mentally and emotionally drained this friend and her family. They are still trying to recover. Their sibling however, once that support was gone has managed to get back on their feet and is taking care of themselves, paying their own way and in a much better place than they were. Sometimes it is better to NOT help them.