I was at home with the kids for 10 years before I had a job. For me, working outside the house was what helped me become 'me' again - I got to see & speak to adults (!) who related to me as 'Jas' not just as 'Mum' or as '___'s mum'.

Not that you have to work outside of home, I think anything outside of home & away from the kids - a hobby group, a course, work - will do it.

From what I have read of your posts Maz, you're a pretty strong person & it might be a hurdle but one you will clear no worries

Mrsmac it's not all for nothing you have 4 gorgeous kids who love you. I said I had to have 4 so one of them at least would look after me when I 'm old so that's not pointless, is it?