Forgiveness (following on from Grudge thread)

[AnyDream]

I disagree with the semantics, although I think I agree with the thrust of what you are saying.

The reason I disagree with it, is because I think a really powerful part of the act of forgiveness is bearing witness to what happened and then letting it go. The bearing witness part means really acknowledging powerfully the wrongness, the pain, the guilt you may feel for allowing it to happen, your grief for what you have lost, etc. That witness is the not-forgetting part. But unless you can stand in that place you haven't really forgiven anything, you're just in denial.