Yes I have to agree. But I didn't go into it because I was relating to the who idea of communicating. But if that is something you really feel you need to discuss it with her. I don't think she'll take it well but then some people might? I don't know. Some of my closest friends have questioned me on similar things, and we just sat down and talked about it until it was understood. It's hard to understand when you aren't a parent or parent differently (and I don't mean that patronisingly either especially give you are one) but it's true. One of my best buddies and I had a falling out and didn't talk for a long time because she couldn't understand what it was like to be a mother. Now she has her own child and we are very close again and she sees the faults in her POV of the past (and I wasn't completely innocent either BTW... it's always a two way street). Like I said goodluck, if you're really worried maybe just email her to talk in person, my DH says that emails/forums/texts are a bad way to communicate because so much is lost without tone, body language etc.