How do you convince someone not to give up?

[BellyBelly]

You cant take it all on hon. You can be there for him, love him, try etc but you can't be responsible for what he's thinking/saying. Hopefully he finds it in himself to reject the verdict and fight, but you cannot make him nor be responsible for having to do or say the right thing. This is a big test for him now.

The terminal cancer I mentioned above, they did not have chemo, anything. The woman with breast cancer on The Secret didnt either. She reduced her stress and watched funny movies, repeated grattitude mantras all day. Perhaps watch it with him?

Cancer thrives on a lack of oxygen in the body, they dont do well where its highly oxygenated. What increases oxygen in the body? You might know this - lots of water, deep diaphram breathing, exercise (as best he can). Does he have a healthy diet? Wheatgrass is very cleansing.

[C~Q]

Fi - i'm the same, well I go from being really emotional to shut off and clinical...clinical is easier. You're right, it is against everything he believes and things like chemo are just not an option for him. I think he just can't accept that he can't find any other way of killing it...he's tried so much and nothing is working.

Kel - so the cancer you were talking about...was it all positive thinking? Or did they do anything else? Embarrassed to admit that I haven't watched The Secret...but there'sa woman on there with breast cancer? I'll go and buy it and we can watch it together.

I honestly believe that we physically manifest emotional problems and I almost know that he's not getting well because of this crap with his mother. There is so much anger and biterness and hatred towards her...so much. It's eating him up inside and I really think it's fuelling the cancer. And I think he knows it too but i can't get him to come to terms with the situation. He can't change her, he can't understand her, he just has to accept her. So maybe I need to try harder to get him to understand that?

ETA - sorry Kel, he does have a heathy diet, and he's following all the "rules" no sugar etc. He is starting to exercise again a little bit. Although it's hard, we went for a surf the other day and it whiped him for ages.