Regrets

[Indadhanu]

I posted about regrets in another thread. Have on let me find it...

We make the decisions that are best for us at that point in time, and whether someone else doesn't like it, or we come to not like the decision we made, the fact is that we made that decision. It was the choice that we made, the best one for us at the time. It was what we thought was right. A

nd always remembering that hindsight is wonderful, but you never have hindsight until you make the deicison. You can't look back until you make decisions and move forward. It's scary and new and uncertain when you are looking forward into new terrain, but it's never as scary, never as daughting, and always a lot clearer when you look back. You look back and you can see all the paths you could have taken. But looking forward, you're always trying to just get through it, you don't always look for alternative routes. You're just trying to get through it.

Anyway, that probably went way off topic but sometimes I'd like to post that. On many threads, to many people, I'd like to post that. In fact, I'd like to print it and stick it on my wall so I can remember it more often than I do! We make the choices, and whether we think someone thinks its wrong, or we ourselves come to a point where we think it's wrong or not the best choice, we made that chocie. No use letting someone else's words make us feel bad, because at the end of the day it was US. It was OUR choices, that we thought was right.

That's how I work through 'regrets'. Remembering that at the time I amde a decision, and whether or not it ended up being the best decision, I made it because it was the decision I felt was right for me at the time.

Plus, you can't say you would go back and do it differently because you wouldn't have the knowledge you have now. You would still do the same thing, because you'd be in the same place with the same knowledge and priorities. The decisions we are making RIGHT NOW could one day be a 'regret', but right now would you see it that way? No. Because you're making the decision based on RIGHT NOW, not from a point in the future after you've already made the decision.