I capiesh!! honestly I get it. Ive been sitting here thinking about this for ages now wondering how exactly I praise my children. Couldn't there be a balance as such with it though? I use thankyou alot like you explained. Would it still sound right then to say..I couldnt have done it with out your help?

Man this boggles my brain. I really dont wnat my kids to feel like they have to validate the last poo they did...Jed and I have said we want them to be themselves without feleing inadequet..and thought we had been doing it right but now im starting to doubt out methods.