I feel exactly the same way and I know that because I am so anxious to avoid my children feeling the same way about me that I feel about the way I was parented, I do almost everything the opposite way my mother would have.

I just worry that I will mess up our relationship in some other way that hasn't occurred to me!

In the end I have resolved that if nothing else, my mother taught me how to be the kind of parent I want to be. And as a PP said - I also try to be mindful in my parenting. I figure that as long as my children never have reason to doubt that I love them and want the best for them and I can explain why I'm approaching something a certain way, I'll muddle through it somehow.